Coming out as a plus-size person is a challenging and upsetting thing to do, with many unpleasant repercussions.
The main problem is that body size and shape are not yet widely considered to be something we're born with. People who are born thin are given credit for it and take credit for it---even if what they consider to be their body-maintaining efforts wouldn't have the same effect on others. People who eat enough to maintain their non-thin weights are considered to be overeating, and the overeating is considered to be why they're non-thin. And because a small percentage of people who were born non-thin have managed with disproportionate and unceasing effort to make limited changes to limited aspects of their shapes, it's widely thought that all people can be born thin if only they cared about their "health." Next, perhaps, doctors will recommend that people who are too tall should have height-loss surgery. People who are too short will be advised to use heel supplementation devices to help them achieve a healthy height. Charts showing healthy height ranges will be posted prominently on doctor's walls. Really we are just concerned about the non-ideally-heighted person's HEALTH.
Another problem is that once a person is known to be plus-sized, his or her opinions about weight, diets, exercise, eating, appearance, etc., are forever and completely dismissed. Does a plus-sized person object to a friend's self-loathing comments? The plus-size person is obviously jealous, and has Body Issues they're projecting onto the friend. Does a plus-sized person think there are goals and achievements in life more worthwhile and laudable than being thin? The plus-sized person is just trying to feel better about herself and her failures to achieve thinness. Does a plus-sized person object to what she considers an offensive and disgusting cultural attitude toward body size? Well, of COURSE she does! Does a plus-sized person consider herself to have healthy eating/exercise habits? She is wrong. Does a plus-sized person feel sick when she sees articles praising people who are responding to social pressures by eating 1100 calories a day and exercising 2 hours a day? Body issues. Jealousy. FATNESS!
So I am painfully aware that by allowing you to know more information about the size and shape I am, I have potentially dramatically changed your feelings about me and the things I have to say. Now when I talk about baking, the baking is why I'm so PLUS-SIZED---even though if I were thin and liked to bake, no one would link the baking with my body size. Now if I complain about cultural problems, I'm jealous/fat/issued. Now if I worry about a friend's exercise and eating habits, I'm jealous/fat/issued. My opinions on such subjects, which would be listened to if my body were a different shape and size, will be used to attack me, my "health," and my mental condition. Only thin people are mentally healthy.
I'm tall. I'm Dutch. I'm light-skinned. I'm straight. I'm female. I'm narrow-shouldered and long-torsoed. I'm plus-sized. These are all characteristics on my DNA. It's upsetting and disturbing that certain characteristics on the DNA, such as sex, sexual orientation, and skin color, have, over time, been used for discriminatory purposes---and that there's very little reason to hope that anything will ever change about weight attitudes.
The upside of coming out as a plus-sized person is that a person's nearest and dearest are not surprised or affected by the news.
[Clarification: I put this in the comment section, too, but it's not likely to be seen there. I'm DEFINITELY NOT saying EITHER that change is not possible OR that lifestyle doesn't contribute to body size---I thought both those things were clear, but clearly not. However, I do think that DNA affects what you start with, what it is possible to end up with, and how much effort it takes to get there. The amount of time and effort it takes me to be non-plus-sized costs me more than it's worth. For another person, the price might be lower, or worth it; this is a way in which we are different.]
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